They can say they disagree all they want, but in the end they still support the church. It annoys me to no end when people say "I'm a Christian, but I don't agree with...." because their support still helps the church do these things.

I believe that if people honestly disagree with what their leaders are doing, they need to do something about it. Don't give the church that support in numbers when a poll asks what religion you are. Don't tithe to the church. Encourage your local leaders to speak out against the hatred that the hierarchy is spreading. That's just for starters.